Like or Love ?

Hi, I’m sorry I didn’t post anything last month since I was really busy and didn’t have time to write my blog. But now I’m back again. :D 

Lately I see that more and more people getting divorced on TV, in real life and it’s kinda becoming a culture in western civilization ( I don’t know how about Asia or Africa…). And marriage is not seen as sacred as before but more like a game, when you feel like it you married and when you’re bored you can divorce and just go away. This kind of thing happens because of the wrong perceptions people have in mind, most people mistaken love with like or even some people cannot differentiate like with love.

So I’m gonna give some differences between like and love. Boys and girls need to know this since they often say “I love you” without realize the true meaning. First, like usually or commonly more to attraction toward something “outside” like body, look, fame, status and many more. In school life, boys and girls attracted toward this kind of things a lot, maybe because they are not mature enough. Just common example, “hey I love that boy because he is handsome, his body ripped and he is the quarterback, I’m sure we can be the perfect couple” or “man, I want that girl because she is beautiful, have a sexy body and she is a cheerleader, I’m sure she is the one”, I’m sure most of us have experienced or experiencing it right now. But let’s take a moment and think about it, okay he/she has a nice face, nice body, and popular, then fast forward 20years, what they will look like? Old? Fat? Wrinkled? And what will you do? Do you still like it? I guess the one who experienced it knows the answer. NO, because that thing will change as the time goes. On the other hand, love usually more to attraction toward something “inside”, like feeling, character, understanding and others. And you know, because of that, love will never change, because it based on something that will not change, even as the time goes. For illustration if you love a man now who is funny, kind, diligent, passionate then fast forward 20years, that man will be still the same, because things “inside” are not easily change.

Second, like usually more instant, doesn’t need a lot of time, hasty and will not last long. For illustration, like is like when you buy a cell phone, you buy it because you like it at that time, but after sometime you find that your cell phone is slow, not responsive, crash a lot then you throw it and buy a new one, because that cell phone didn’t have any sentimental value, and it’s easy to get. The same goes for people, they see it, they like it, they married and after sometime they find their spouse is not what they imagined and they dislike it, then they divorced. But love is different, love usually take a lot of time, life consuming and last a lifetime. Love is like when you grow tree, you plant the seed, you water it, you give fertilizer everyday, and you make sure it free from parasite and many more. It takes a lot of time up to the point that tree becomes a part of your life. The same goes for people who love, they take time to know each other really well, create a bond, take a slow step to ensure that he/she is the one, so in the end nothing can disrupt the love.

The last, like is more possessive, selfish and emotional. On the opposite love is more selfless, compassionate, and understanding. For example when you like someone and he/she rejected you then you see he/she happy together with other people and that makes you furious and beat that other people. But when you love someone and he/she rejected you then you see he/she happy together with other people, you should be happy because the one you love is happy.

So don’t mistake like with love. Marry to the one you love, not like, because it can give you happiness. Don’t marry to people that you only like. And don’t be hasty, take your time, it’s better late than fail because love can come at any ages.

I hope now you can find your love and have a true happy life. ;D

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Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

Anger and Hatred

In my life, I’ve met many people that have issue in anger and hatred management. Most of them do not have a happy life and even there are some who blinded by their anger and hatred and in the end make them lose everything dear to them. In my opinion anger and hatred are useless act, it doesn’t give any benefit, on the contrary it always give us problems, problems with people around us, problems with our things, and many more.

Few days ago my friend came to me and he said that he and his wife now are fighting each other again ( I think most couples / families have experienced this ) because of some silly matters, at first his wife forgot to do something and my friend are very furious , since he’s highly emotional or temperamental. That day they fought and my friend, because he’s too angry, he throw a very harsh word to his wife, and as matter of fact, woman are more sensitive than man, so his wife heart is hurt. Since that day, both of them are not as good as before again. What came to my mind are their children, so I came to his house and asked their children how they feel. Unsurprisingly, both of his children (they’re both teens) said that they actually depressed too, and didn’t know they must side with whom. They also said that they prefer to hangout with their friends up till night, because they hate to be at home, experiencing unpleasant situation. Then I asked more, do you still like your parents, and they said they still admire them as their parents but not love them, and actually they said they want to get out from their home as quickly as possible. Next, I let my friend and his wife know about their children feelings, and suggested them to discuss thing each other, to clear the problem. Fortunately they able to reconcile in the end.

Last week, I also met my relatives and she told me that she really hate her neighbor, every time she saw him, she feels like she wanted to kill him, because her neighbor always annoy her, from throwing garbage to her lawn, breaking the fence, and many more. So I asked her whether her neighbor know that she hate him, and she said no. and I asked her, about how that hate change her life, and she said that she become emotional every time she saw him, then she mad and cursing him from her heart, also sometimes at night she can’t sleep when she remembered him.

From these experiences we can see the bad impacts from anger.

First you lost the love from people around you, instead they will also hate you or angry at you, creating unending cycle of anger and hatred. And many people realize it too late, they realize when every body dear to them left them, and it’s very hard to bring everything back to what it was before.

Second, what good did you get from anger? NOTHING! As a matter of fact anger and hatred will only shorten your live! You see, from the experiences above, and I’m sure some of you experienced things like that too, so when you hate someone and that someone doesn’t know that you hate them or if they knew and they didn’t respond to your anger, then you’re wasting your energy. You hate them, and you suffer, you mad, you can’t sleep, you’re cursing people, you can’t enjoy peaceful time, etc, and the person you hate enjoying their life as usual, good sleep, happy time, enjoying time, etc. Or even if you take action, say like injured them or kill them, in the end you’ll end up in jail and you ruined your life!!! Isn’t it ridiculous!!!

Third, usually when people angry or hate other people, they’ll blow steam by yelling, throwing things and often destroying their own things. So you’re angry and you destroy your own thing, and sometimes it can be valuable things like cell phones, and many more. In the end after you cool down, you need to buy again those things. It’s only wasting your money.

And at higher level, anger and hatred will only bring war and death to people.

So, stop your anger and hatred! Why choose to live a life of anger and hatred when you can have a life of happiness and peace. It’s only matter of forgiving and controlling your emotion.

World will become a lot more beautiful without anger and hatred.

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

Desperate? Suicide?

Few days ago I read the news of the SUV that was set up to blow at Times Square and gratefully the police was able to defuse it before it blew. I cannot imagine what will happen and the impacts if the bomb were to explode. We do not know what waiting for us in the future, so in that case we need to be very aware and very careful all the time, just like the store owner who notice something amiss with the SUV and report it to the police, and maybe if he didn’t notice it, he and other many people would die that night.

Yesterday I just talked with my friend and he told me that last year many people suicide around the world because they cannot bear the economic and financial pressure, fell into despair and eventually commits suicide, especially rich people who suddenly become poor people. It is very interesting that they think by committing suicide all problems are solved. For me actually people who are committing suicide are cowards who do not dare to face their problem and simply run away by ending their lives. In fact, suicide only brings more problems to other people who are close to them, like sadness, funeral cost, etc.

In my opinion, if people have the courage to throw away or ending their lives, then why don’t they use that courage to do something great or start anew, because they already have nothing to lose and who know good thing maybe happen for them. Human actually can do great thing when they are desperate, since they will constantly think with all their ability to find way out from their problem, so why don’t use the gift that they have. Or if they do not want their life anymore, then why don’t they use their lives to help another people for a greater cause or good cause rather than throw away their life meaninglessly.

No matter in what kinds of condition we are in, don’t ever give up. Turn your anger, sadness and desperation into strength, and walk once again and who knows a shining world may wait ahead.

Best Regards,

Sleeping Wiseman

 

Be Grateful

Last week many things happened, earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, and fraud news. But still no matter what happens we need to be grateful for everyday in our life.

Last week one of my friend talked to me how miserable his life is. He complained that his job sucks, he don’t have enough money to go on vacation, and many more. From what I see, he should feel really grateful, because the fact that he still has a job is a blessing, compared to many other people who got laid off.

Most people always not satisfied with their life, always wanting more but they never spent time to look around, to look how many people are in worse condition than they are. When problems appear in their life, even it’s only a small or trivial problem, people start to blaming other people, blaming their fate, or even blaming God. People should think over and over again before they’re complaining for what happen in their life. Open your eyes, see the world carefully, and you’ll find many people whose life are really miserable, so you’ll realize how puny the problems you’re facing compared to problems that they’re facing. And sometimes problems appear in our life to remind us to be grateful.

Let’s take a look at this example.

Let say, one day the company that you’re worked with give free vacation to their employees to mountain retreat. The company hired 2 buses to take the employees to the mountain retreat. On the way, the first bus tire exploded, and makes the bus going out of control and heading out to steep cliff. Everyone is praying and screaming for help, but miraculously at the edge of the cliff the bus stopped and everyone is save. Moments later, all of the employees in the first bus finally arrived and they are telling how grateful and how blessed they are to the employees in the second bus.

Isn’t it strange? The people in the second bus experienced a hell of situation and they nearly died, but they are feeling grateful that they’re still alive afterward. In the contrary people in the second bus, who didn’t experience any bad situation and having a safe trip, do not feel as grateful as people in the first bus. In my opinion people in the second bus should fell more grateful because they didn’t have any problems. So problems sometimes can remind us to be grateful, because it’s human nature when everything goes smooth and good, we tend to forget to be grateful.

So let’s be grateful for everything happened in our life, like grateful that we have a safe trip to and from our workplace or school, grateful that we still live, and many more. The more you find things and reasons to be grateful, the more beautiful your life could be.

Here’s a really good videos that I see from TV that make me feel really grateful. And I’m sure most of you who read my blog have a life more or less like the boy on the left side of the video, which give another reason to be grateful.

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

LUST

HAPPY EASTER EVERYONE!!!!!

I hope you’ll have great easter today. Easter is usually the day to reminisce the death and revival of Christ to redeem our sin. So today I will write about one of the greatest sins that I’m sure every one of us has experienced or still experiencing it now, lust.

I have said many times to young people, especially boy that they shouldn’t watch porn or masturbate, because as every one who already experienced it know, it is really hard to stop from doing it, even sometimes it is impossible for some people. Lot of people think porn and masturbate are easy to control, you can start and stop it whenever they want. Before, I have told my friends that is not possible to control their lust once their start it, they think they can control their lust. As the time goes, their lust grow bigger and bigger, first they only look some magazines or videos that their father have secretly, then they use their computer to browse porn site, after that they secretly subscribed and paid to internet porn site using their pocket money, still not enough, they have sex with their girlfriends, and their lust was keep growing, always want more and it’s impossible for them to live for a week without porn and masturbation. So is this what they meant by saying they can control their lust, because from what I see they cannot control their lust, instead lust is the one who is controlling them, they becomes their slave. And usually people who think they can control their lust fall into deep, they always find justification for their acts. Some of my friends once told me that seeing porn in the magazines, tv and internet is not a sin, because it’s only a group of pixels or ink colors that are arranged to shape a pictures. So are you having this experience or still in the early process? Then keep reading.

Many people think that the habit of watching porn and masturbation that they get from their young age will end when their married or when they are older. It’s WRONG, many married people and adults still cannot stop their porn and habitual habit, if you don’t believe it, ask your older relatives or search the internet. There are many desperate people who want to stop their porn and masturbation habit, because it’s annoying, or a shame to their child and wife, or they want to repent, but alas most of them cannot stop it. And I can make sure that porn and masturbation will give you great problems in the future, especially when you’ve become a great person. Just look on many sex scandals and many other things that famous people have because of their lust. And what do they get in the end, they lost their money, power, trust and even their life.

Less than 10 people out of 1000 people can stop their lust, when they want to. It’s literally like a drugs, once you inject it to your body, you will want more, and when you stop it, it feels like your body and mind screaming from inside. Only the strong willed person able to stop their porn and masturbation habit. And the rest of people can only regret what they did when they were young. Now that you know everything, so why you do things that you will regret later it, you better to stay away from it.

So I strongly suggest to everyone, do not ever try to watch porn or masturbate, even your friends told you how good it is, or even if they force you, because you know that you’ll be the one who laugh in the end.

And for people who are already watch porn and masturbate, here are my few suggestions : stop it immediately, seek help from other people, and do a lot activity that can keep you away from porn and masturbation, and stay away from your computer, because with only few clicks you can open porn site and the devil always there to tempt you. Also don’t tell yourself to stay away from porn or stop masturbate, because you’ll end up thinking more about them, just forget them by doing other things you like. And if you’re already freed, don’t ever try to do it again, because it will make all the effort you done worthless.

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

Before married sex / teen sex !!??

It’s been 2 week since I last posted in my blog, I went to do some business and unfortunately the place that I visited didn’t have internet connection, geez. 

In the past decades up to now, I see that before married sex and teen sex practices are growing more and more in uncontrollable rate. These practices happen the most in the high school through university, and some even experience their first time sex in the junior high. This is very very ironic since most teenagers do it because of their friends invite them or their friends tell them to do it, because sex is fun, make them look cool, and giving them pleasure. And what’s more ironic is, some teenager even proudly talking that they have sex with this and that guy or girl. We know that as adult that all of those are completely wrong, and the consequences are really heavy, especially for women or girl.

I want to discuss why girl shouldn’t do before married sex or teen sex and what are the impacts. First girls have huge disadvantages, because as you know when you have sex “accident” may happen, like the girl will end up pregnant. When this happen, people will stay away from you and you will have no future, your fate is sealed, and guess what, you just destroyed your future by yourself. Next, maybe some of you will think, no way, my boyfriend is a responsible man, or etc etc. You know, the fact is that when you are pregnant your boyfriend most likely will leave you, or even never look at you again!! Because he knows that if he didn’t cut his relationship with you, he will have no future too. And you can see the life of teen moms in television program, some channels have it, and think, is that the life you want to have while your ex boyfriend leave you and have fun with other girls. I’m sure some of you think, “hey I’m safe, my boyfriend always use condom while doing it” or something like that, but even though you have done everything to prevent it, accident can always happen (that’s why they call it accident). Is it really worth it to have sex for a moment of pleasure then you have to carry the burden in your entire life? If you’re a sane person, then you should have NO as an answer. 

Another reason why girls should not do teen sex or before married sex is because if girls do it, then what is the difference between those girls and whores (sorry for the rude word)!!?? And there’s even some girls that proudly talk about how many times she already has sex with other people. Whores do it, and she get money for it, but those teenage girls do it, and don’t get anything at all, doesn’t that worse than whores? If they think the reason is love, and then it’s wrong, you know, love composed of some elements, and some of those elements are patience, endurance, and compassion. So if your guy really love you or your true love, I’m 100% sure that he will have no problem to wait to have sex with you until you are married to each other, because love enable him to have the patience to wait, the endurance to hold his lust, and the compassion to understand you. And on the contrary, if your guy only want to have sex with you and if you don’t fulfill his request he break up with you, then so be it, because that man didn’t love you, he only lust for you or your body. And as you can see that girl who given in to have sex with a guy, usually doesn’t last long, because after the guy bored and his lust fulfilled, then he will lust for other girl. And even most of the time that guy will think of the girls that he has sex with as a trophy, to show that he is great. Is this what you girls want? 

The same goes for boys, if you admit that you love someone, then don’t have sex with her until you married, because you will destroy her entire life. And if the girl is the one who ask you to have sex with her then break up with her, because that means that she already done it before with other guys or even if she has not, and you make her as your wife in the future, then she will likely cheated on you. 

Before married sex and teen sex are also one of the factor that affecting the high divorce rate, because when problems come in the family, or when husband and wives fighting, they will think “hey I’ve done it before, and why don’t it again now, there’s no difference”. And so on and on and on.

So people, think carefully before you do before married sex or teen sex!! Think about the consequences, think clearly don’t be blinded by lust and control yourself. Both man and woman responsible to prevent this from happen.

If you found my writing is useful, please let other people read it or know it. Let make this world a better place. :D

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

End of The World !!??

Yesterday, I watched television and shocked by the earthquake news that hit Chile. I said to myself, wow, what’s going on, last month it was Haiti and now Chile, right at the end of February. Is big earthquake going to be monthly event or what. This is horrible, but all in all the victim in Chile far less than in Haiti, hundreds compared to 220,000 for now, something that we should be grateful, since the earthquake that hit Chile was far stronger than the one that hit Haiti.

I just want to say my deepest condolence for Chilean people and let’s pray the death toll stopped and not increasing. 

I remembered that many people use this kind of moment to gain personal advantage or to deceive people. Many people, especially influential person are saying the world will end in 2012, or the end of the world is near, and try to make you and other people believe them and do what they say or to promote some product. But you know what bible say in Mark 13 32"No one knows about that day or hour, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father. 33Be on guard! Be alert! You do not know when that time will come.” So no one in this world knows when the world is going to end, it’s just a complete lie. It’s so sad seeing people fooled by other people, and feel worry for nothing.

I also heard that many priests or great figures do some miracles or have some great vision. In one occasion, I got a brochure that said a great priest has come to the church near my place and he will give a testimony of hell, because he said that God once gave him a vision of hell. And the most interesting thing is that he clearly remembers the writing in hell gate, I forgot what are the writing, but the writing is using English. Really?? I mean really?? Did he just have a dream that he thought as vision? And he is not the only one, there are a lot people do greater miracles or greater vision (like go to heaven, or meet God himself, etc etc). Sadly people who lack of faith and wisdom are easily swayed by them. People shouldn't believe that, because, again, the bible already stated that in Matthew 24 23At that time if anyone says to you, 'Look, here is the Christ!' or, 'There he is!' do not believe it. 24For false Christs and false prophets will appear and perform great signs and miracles to deceive even the elect—if that were possible. 25See, I have told you ahead of time.

So now you know the truth, you shouldn’t worry world will end in 2012, or fooled and follow people who admit that have power to miracles as prophet did. 

Just live your live to the fullest, enjoy everything, follow your heart and believe what you believe is right.

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

A Book CAN be Judged by Its Cover

It’s been a week, and now is the third week of February. How was your valentine, good? I hope so. Today I write about misconception that people usually make. There’s a saying don’t judge a book by its cover and this was made as a reason for a lot of people who are too lazy to dress up, or don’t care of their appearance. Now I give you reason why a book cover is really important. Enjoy.

People usually say don’t judge a book by its cover or don’t judge a person by its looks, but it’s a human nature to judge something by it looks since in most occasion when we have something new or meet someone new, we see it first before we touch it or hear it. You cannot resist not to judge people by its look, because it happens spontaneously and instantly, for example when you see a person with beard, scars in his or her face, fierce look, and dirty, and then I’m sure most of you will think negative of this person even though this person has a heart of an angel. Or a person with a neat and clean clothes, very polite, and looking good, and then I’m sure most of you will think positive of this person even though for example he is a killer or evil person.

What I want to say is, content or a person personality is really important, but appearance is also as important as the content or personality. Appearance give first impression to other people who look at and first impression is really important. If people already feel and think that a person is bad because of the impression that person give, then people will have trouble to trust that person, especially when that person do a good thing. First impression will stay deep down on the mind of people and even some people unconsciously labeled people as good or bad just from the appearance, because they don’t know really well that person.

Other case that show how important appearance is happen at the job interview. Usually at the job interview, the questioner or employer will look at your appearance first, whether your clothes are neat or not, etc, because it shows who you are and what is your habit. If you appear bad, then surely you have no chance to get a job. A person appearance, from the way of clothing, talking, eating, etc, usually reflect that person personality, sense, and knowledge. 

In conclusion, it’s true that a book shouldn’t judged by its cover but its cover can tell a lot about that book, the same goes for people.

So from today, why don’t all of us recheck our appearance, is it good enough, or not. If not, find a way to improve it, remember to have a good appearance doesn’t mean to spend money, you can do it by dressing neatly, keep your face clean or at least in check, and learn how to appear appropriate in many occasions. Everything will be smooth if people have positive impression on you.

Let’s make people in this world look better. 

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

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Valentine’s Day

 

First I want to say Happy Valentine’s Day and Happy Lunar New Year to those who celebrate it.

Today we are celebrating Valentine’s Day to commemorate love but do we all really know and understand what love is or how to love? Well, there are a lot different answers to this question from different people, but today I want to share my view about love.

Valentine’s day actually created to remember Saint Valentine death because he defended the right of people and also because his love to God. What I can learn from this is he sacrificed his life for something that he loved. So in my view, love is sacrifice, but that doesn’t mean to sacrifice your life. lol

You can know how deep someone loves something by measuring the sacrifice that he made for that something, the bigger the sacrifice, the deeper the love. Sacrifice can come in many ways, like sacrifice of your heart, time, money, energy or everything that you have that you can give to make your loved one happy. But to make everything work, your loved one also have to sacrifice something for you, if not then it means you have one sided love.

So are you ready to sacrifice today??

Make this Valentine’s day more beautiful, by sacrificing some of you more, give your best effort to make this day unforgettable for your loved one.

My Valentine’s day tips

For guys, give something special for your girl, generally women will loved flowers and chocolate, but if you have more money, you can give her jewelry, you know the saying “diamonds are women best friend”

Take her to special place, like the place you have your memory together for example, the place you first time meet, and talk something sweet to reminisce and usually say sincerely I love you forever also work.

After that you can have a dinner in a place you both like, or if you want to have a change, you can go to high class restaurant and order something special, usually they have valentine’s special menu. Have a champagne and don’t forget to hire singer or music player to sing at your table.

And the last don’t forget to hug and kiss (only for 18 years and older). :D

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

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Harmony Marriage Life

It is February now and next week is Valentine Day. Valentine day usually seen as love day, the day to show our love and affection more to our loved ones and this is not only for people who haven’t married, but also for people who have married.

I see in these days many spouses are fighting or having “cold war” in their house toward each other, which is very sad, and this could lead to divorce. Because of that I want to share a little from my experience on how to making things work in marriage life, so you can enjoy life full of love till the end of times.

First, don’t get mad when your spouse is mad, especially if they are mad at you. Remember don’t fight fire with fire, you can only put down fire with water. So when your spouse mad at you, keep calm, don’t let your emotion get you, wait until your spouse to cool off and then talk to him, then discuss with him to solve the problem. Usually when your spouse mad at you, it’s not always because of you, or your fault, they usually mad because of other things, external factor, maybe like they mad with their boss but they can’t really yell at them right, so they need someone to blow off their steam too. Even if you have big problems keep your head cool, and try to solve it, because there is no problem that cannot be solved when your head is cool. So take it easy, don’t follow your emotion, and keep your head cool.

Second, make time to get together with your spouse periodically and try to rekindle the time when you were girlfriend or boyfriend with your spouse, remembering what makes you love your spouse. Usually people are forgetting this things, and considered this as not important or wasting time, and because you never have your time to get together, your spouse will feel neglected, abandoned, so the fact is get together can boost your relationship with your spouse drastically.

Third, man needs to understand woman better and woman needs to understand man better too. Usually man is more insensitive and woman is more sensitive, and this can make some problems in marriage life. Woman should not talk using hidden message when talk to man, instead they should talk directly what their mean because man is not very good at deciphering hidden message, for example when a woman want to go to vacation don’t talk like this “hey that’s a very beautiful place, and you know you look tired honey” instead talk like this “hey lets go on a vacation, I really want it”. On the other side woman should not feel offended when man talk directly like that, because it’s their nature. Next man don’t really respond well to woman heart talk, they usually respond in short response and simple, as if not have any sympathies, but that’s not true because, again, it’s their nature. For this kind of problem, woman should have close friends to talk to, because they can respond better and understand the problems better, and what’s more usually woman can support each other so they can stay strong.

The last is simple tips from me, try to drink green tea anytime you can, because green tea can calm your nerve, so you can think clearer and also it has a lot of antioxidant so you can always look younger and attractive to your spouse.

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

Economic Crisis: bad for business BUT very good for environment and your health

Economic crisis is still happening despite all of the experts and analysts said that we passed the bottom. On the bright side, people are beginning to get their sense back, and economic crisis give a lot greater impact compared to all of green campaigns that have been done all this time.

Maybe you say how do I know? Lately I’ve been watching people around my neighborhood to change. Maybe they don’t realize it that their lifestyle now is very good for environment and their health, since their original motive is to save money.

Things that I see people start to walk or use bicycle to the train or bus station, rather than to use their private car like before, and I saw few weeks ago my neighbor exchanged their 5.7litres SUV with compact sedan, which has much much better mileage. So if millions of people doing like this, then you can count by yourself how many carbon that have been saved, moreover walking or cycling make you move your bodies and burn calories, as a result you become healthier.

Another trend that happening is now people stop window shopping or stop buying something that people actually don’t need. This is very good for environment, so there is less waste or garbage and since less people buy unimportant things then it mean no more wasting resources to create that product. Also people are starting to raise the temperature of their air conditioner few degrees in summer and this mean we have saved a lot of electricity.

People now also more keen in food problem. Before, people often eat in restaurant or fast food chain, since it’s easier and simpler. Now, I see people are starting to eat at home and prepare food from home to save money. This is very good for your health because you can control your calories intake and its more hygiene. From what I see, most of people eat more vegetables and less meat when eat at home or prepare food from home, and again this is good for your health, and also good for your environment. Meat animals actually produce a lot of carbon, one of the research show that one cow produce carbon more than several cars.

Because of this economic crisis we have sacrificed some of our conveniences, but do you feel it that we slowly are starting to adapt with it, and it’s not as hard as we have imagined before since we are getting used to. And as a bonus we are helping our environment and also we get healthier.

Maybe all of this are a warning that the world has given to us to get back to our senses, to appreciate more our bodies and nature.

So let keep it this way, good for nature, good for our health, and soon, I’m sure, economy will get better too.

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

Helping people that you don't know??

Yesterday I read the news and shocked a little when seeing Hope for Haiti telethon able to raise US$57mil in economy condition like this. There are so many people around the world who care for what happen in Haiti and that is really great, helping other people in need.

But what become my question when people that willing to other people that they don’t know about, is do people help other people who are in need around them? 

I have seen a lot of people who are like to donate when there is disaster happening, but on the other side they don’t care about those in need in their neighborhood or even in their own family. It’s really great that you care about what happen with people that you don’t even know, so if you’re able to do that then why don’t you help people around you who are in need, you can start at first from people who are close with you.

I’ve seen a lot family who able to donate large sum of money but they are not in harmony, fights happen between husband and wife or parents with children. My point is if you have that great affection to those people who you don’t know anything about, then why you don’t give your affection first to your family, to your closest one. After that you can start to care people in need in your neighborhood, like those beggars and people who don’t have anything. There are always people who are in need that around you, but it is your choice whether you want to look it or not. 

Please don’t become a hypocrite person, who always put a smile mask in front but deep down inside all you got is rotten heart.

So help as many people as you can, to make this world a better place.

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

You Are Who You Are

Another week has passed in 2010, and lots of things have happened. From unending bankruptcy report, waves of people who were laid off, and earthquake that happened in Haiti. Everyday looks worse than before, everything becomes uncertain and spins out of control, but remember everything will be over and all the hardships that we experience today will be like a dream for tomorrow. Keep looking up, never give up, and always look from positive side.

First I want to say my condolences on what happened in Haiti, let’s give a moment to pray for what happened there and may people at Haiti can be given the strength to face all of this. And may this disaster can make us realize how fortunate we are, and give us another reason to give thanks to HIM.

This week in the office when I was enjoying some romantic songs, a coworker of mine stopped by my room and said harshly that I’m sissy, because real man should hear rock or heavy metal music, not some soft music. It comes to my mind how many times I already experienced things like this, and I’m sure all of you also have experienced things like this more than once.

Situation like this happen the most at senior or university age based on my experience. In my experience they usually ask you to smoke cigarette or worse weeds, free sex, use drugs, or speeding. When other people try to make you to like or do something and you don’t do it or like it they will call you coward, sissy, or other rude things. But for me, people who are calling other person coward, sissy, etc like that are actually the one who is sissy, coward, or etc just like what they said.

People, who can resist, say no to all of that, and stay true to themselves, are actually the real great people. The reasons are simple. First, when you say no, you are proving that you are strong enough to be yourself, not what other people tell you, and not to lose your identity, on the contrary the one who are weak actually is them because they can’t resist, and easily swayed. Remember, great people in the world don’t do what other people said, but they tell other people what to do. Second, usually people who force you are always in a group or member of a group, it shows that they’re actually insecure, afraid to be left or alone, and worse they are nothing as an individual, but you, who resist, you show that you’re far better than them, you have a strong heart. And the last, people who can resist will become a successful person or a leader and on the contrary people who can always follow other people will be at the bottom forever.

Remember YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE, NOT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE SAID WHO YOU ARE.

 

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman