Hi, I’m sorry I didn’t post anything last month since I was really busy and didn’t have time to write my blog. But now I’m back again. :D
Lately I see that more and more people getting divorced on TV, in real life and it’s kinda becoming a culture in western civilization ( I don’t know how about Asia or Africa…). And marriage is not seen as sacred as before but more like a game, when you feel like it you married and when you’re bored you can divorce and just go away. This kind of thing happens because of the wrong perceptions people have in mind, most people mistaken love with like or even some people cannot differentiate like with love.
So I’m gonna give some differences between like and love. Boys and girls need to know this since they often say “I love you” without realize the true meaning. First, like usually or commonly more to attraction toward something “outside” like body, look, fame, status and many more. In school life, boys and girls attracted toward this kind of things a lot, maybe because they are not mature enough. Just common example, “hey I love that boy because he is handsome, his body ripped and he is the quarterback, I’m sure we can be the perfect couple” or “man, I want that girl because she is beautiful, have a sexy body and she is a cheerleader, I’m sure she is the one”, I’m sure most of us have experienced or experiencing it right now. But let’s take a moment and think about it, okay he/she has a nice face, nice body, and popular, then fast forward 20years, what they will look like? Old? Fat? Wrinkled? And what will you do? Do you still like it? I guess the one who experienced it knows the answer. NO, because that thing will change as the time goes. On the other hand, love usually more to attraction toward something “inside”, like feeling, character, understanding and others. And you know, because of that, love will never change, because it based on something that will not change, even as the time goes. For illustration if you love a man now who is funny, kind, diligent, passionate then fast forward 20years, that man will be still the same, because things “inside” are not easily change.
Second, like usually more instant, doesn’t need a lot of time, hasty and will not last long. For illustration, like is like when you buy a cell phone, you buy it because you like it at that time, but after sometime you find that your cell phone is slow, not responsive, crash a lot then you throw it and buy a new one, because that cell phone didn’t have any sentimental value, and it’s easy to get. The same goes for people, they see it, they like it, they married and after sometime they find their spouse is not what they imagined and they dislike it, then they divorced. But love is different, love usually take a lot of time, life consuming and last a lifetime. Love is like when you grow tree, you plant the seed, you water it, you give fertilizer everyday, and you make sure it free from parasite and many more. It takes a lot of time up to the point that tree becomes a part of your life. The same goes for people who love, they take time to know each other really well, create a bond, take a slow step to ensure that he/she is the one, so in the end nothing can disrupt the love.
The last, like is more possessive, selfish and emotional. On the opposite love is more selfless, compassionate, and understanding. For example when you like someone and he/she rejected you then you see he/she happy together with other people and that makes you furious and beat that other people. But when you love someone and he/she rejected you then you see he/she happy together with other people, you should be happy because the one you love is happy.
So don’t mistake like with love. Marry to the one you love, not like, because it can give you happiness. Don’t marry to people that you only like. And don’t be hasty, take your time, it’s better late than fail because love can come at any ages.
I hope now you can find your love and have a true happy life. ;D
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Sleeping Wiseman