Branded Stuffs???

Nowadays people, especially who live in big cities, like to buy branded stuffs. Women usually like to buy branded fashion, like clothes, bags, etc. And men usually like to buy gadgets and cars. Most of them think that branded can raise their social status, make them look better, cooler and richer.

Last week I notice my woman work friend brought another new branded bag from famous designer, that day when we chatted, she told me that her new bag price was more than $1500. Of course at that moment I was shocked, not because the price, but rather because her financial condition. Considering she doesn’t have her own house, and still rent an apartment. Moreover she bought it on credit, so she needs to pay the installment every month. And I notice that there are a lot of people who like to buy branded stuff when their financial condition doesn’t allow them or when they simply can’t afford it. Even some of them goes as far as renting those expensive stuffs because they really really can’t afford it.

The question is, is it really worth it to buy branded stuffs or other stuffs that you don’t need when you can’t really afford it?

Let’s look from other point of view. It’s true that branded stuffs can make them happy for this moment, and also they will look like a rich people, but will those branded stuffs can help you through your future or help you when you have hard times? NO. When the hard times come, those branded stuffs cannot do anything to help you. And when you think you want to sell it, those branded stuffs like fashion, gadgets, cars, second hand price is far below from the new price and declining as the time goes, moreover branded stuffs like that always change models in short time and when new model comes out, the old one price is freefalling.

Second, Can branded stuffs give happiness in the long run? NO. For example my friend above, she use most of his money to buy branded stuffs and she still doesn’t have house. What will happen when she keeps going on like this, and in the future when she can’t work anymore or get laid off, because we don’t know what’s waiting for us in the future, and she still doesn’t have a place to live. I’m sure that she and everyone will not happy when we don’t have a place to live. And I think when she keeps buying stuffs like that; she will have a huge debt waiting for her in the future. Living a live full of debt is not a happy life. So people need to prioritize what they need the most for the long run happiness.

Third, can people look up to a person who doesn’t use branded stuffs? YES. People will appreciate you as long you dressed neat, nice and chic, no need for branded stuffs. And moreover many rich people and celebrities who like to dress casually, not using branded stuffs, and people still look up to them, because they know who they really are.

What makes people appreciated by other people is actually their personality not their stuffs. Friends that people get when they use branded stuffs is not true friend, they only interested in your stuffs, not you as a person. When you don’t have anything, they will leave you.

For illustration, when you cover garbage with gold, that’s still garbage inside it when you remove the gold, it cannot be changed, but if gold covered by garbage, it’s still gold inside it.

So think about this, and choose wisely. Your life and your future are in your own hand. ;D 

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Sleeping Wiseman

Things Happen for Reason

You know, most of the times things do not go as we planned or sometimes we feel like the fate playing jokes with us, but you know, things happen for a reason. Maybe in the future we look back at this point now and grateful that it happened in our life.

So when you face problem, don’t give up, see it from other perspective. Maybe it will bring goodness for us in the future, for we not know what will happen in the future.


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Sleeping Wiseman

Like or Love ?

Hi, I’m sorry I didn’t post anything last month since I was really busy and didn’t have time to write my blog. But now I’m back again. :D 

Lately I see that more and more people getting divorced on TV, in real life and it’s kinda becoming a culture in western civilization ( I don’t know how about Asia or Africa…). And marriage is not seen as sacred as before but more like a game, when you feel like it you married and when you’re bored you can divorce and just go away. This kind of thing happens because of the wrong perceptions people have in mind, most people mistaken love with like or even some people cannot differentiate like with love.

So I’m gonna give some differences between like and love. Boys and girls need to know this since they often say “I love you” without realize the true meaning. First, like usually or commonly more to attraction toward something “outside” like body, look, fame, status and many more. In school life, boys and girls attracted toward this kind of things a lot, maybe because they are not mature enough. Just common example, “hey I love that boy because he is handsome, his body ripped and he is the quarterback, I’m sure we can be the perfect couple” or “man, I want that girl because she is beautiful, have a sexy body and she is a cheerleader, I’m sure she is the one”, I’m sure most of us have experienced or experiencing it right now. But let’s take a moment and think about it, okay he/she has a nice face, nice body, and popular, then fast forward 20years, what they will look like? Old? Fat? Wrinkled? And what will you do? Do you still like it? I guess the one who experienced it knows the answer. NO, because that thing will change as the time goes. On the other hand, love usually more to attraction toward something “inside”, like feeling, character, understanding and others. And you know, because of that, love will never change, because it based on something that will not change, even as the time goes. For illustration if you love a man now who is funny, kind, diligent, passionate then fast forward 20years, that man will be still the same, because things “inside” are not easily change.

Second, like usually more instant, doesn’t need a lot of time, hasty and will not last long. For illustration, like is like when you buy a cell phone, you buy it because you like it at that time, but after sometime you find that your cell phone is slow, not responsive, crash a lot then you throw it and buy a new one, because that cell phone didn’t have any sentimental value, and it’s easy to get. The same goes for people, they see it, they like it, they married and after sometime they find their spouse is not what they imagined and they dislike it, then they divorced. But love is different, love usually take a lot of time, life consuming and last a lifetime. Love is like when you grow tree, you plant the seed, you water it, you give fertilizer everyday, and you make sure it free from parasite and many more. It takes a lot of time up to the point that tree becomes a part of your life. The same goes for people who love, they take time to know each other really well, create a bond, take a slow step to ensure that he/she is the one, so in the end nothing can disrupt the love.

The last, like is more possessive, selfish and emotional. On the opposite love is more selfless, compassionate, and understanding. For example when you like someone and he/she rejected you then you see he/she happy together with other people and that makes you furious and beat that other people. But when you love someone and he/she rejected you then you see he/she happy together with other people, you should be happy because the one you love is happy.

So don’t mistake like with love. Marry to the one you love, not like, because it can give you happiness. Don’t marry to people that you only like. And don’t be hasty, take your time, it’s better late than fail because love can come at any ages.

I hope now you can find your love and have a true happy life. ;D

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Sleeping Wiseman