Before married sex / teen sex !!??

It’s been 2 week since I last posted in my blog, I went to do some business and unfortunately the place that I visited didn’t have internet connection, geez. 

In the past decades up to now, I see that before married sex and teen sex practices are growing more and more in uncontrollable rate. These practices happen the most in the high school through university, and some even experience their first time sex in the junior high. This is very very ironic since most teenagers do it because of their friends invite them or their friends tell them to do it, because sex is fun, make them look cool, and giving them pleasure. And what’s more ironic is, some teenager even proudly talking that they have sex with this and that guy or girl. We know that as adult that all of those are completely wrong, and the consequences are really heavy, especially for women or girl.

I want to discuss why girl shouldn’t do before married sex or teen sex and what are the impacts. First girls have huge disadvantages, because as you know when you have sex “accident” may happen, like the girl will end up pregnant. When this happen, people will stay away from you and you will have no future, your fate is sealed, and guess what, you just destroyed your future by yourself. Next, maybe some of you will think, no way, my boyfriend is a responsible man, or etc etc. You know, the fact is that when you are pregnant your boyfriend most likely will leave you, or even never look at you again!! Because he knows that if he didn’t cut his relationship with you, he will have no future too. And you can see the life of teen moms in television program, some channels have it, and think, is that the life you want to have while your ex boyfriend leave you and have fun with other girls. I’m sure some of you think, “hey I’m safe, my boyfriend always use condom while doing it” or something like that, but even though you have done everything to prevent it, accident can always happen (that’s why they call it accident). Is it really worth it to have sex for a moment of pleasure then you have to carry the burden in your entire life? If you’re a sane person, then you should have NO as an answer. 

Another reason why girls should not do teen sex or before married sex is because if girls do it, then what is the difference between those girls and whores (sorry for the rude word)!!?? And there’s even some girls that proudly talk about how many times she already has sex with other people. Whores do it, and she get money for it, but those teenage girls do it, and don’t get anything at all, doesn’t that worse than whores? If they think the reason is love, and then it’s wrong, you know, love composed of some elements, and some of those elements are patience, endurance, and compassion. So if your guy really love you or your true love, I’m 100% sure that he will have no problem to wait to have sex with you until you are married to each other, because love enable him to have the patience to wait, the endurance to hold his lust, and the compassion to understand you. And on the contrary, if your guy only want to have sex with you and if you don’t fulfill his request he break up with you, then so be it, because that man didn’t love you, he only lust for you or your body. And as you can see that girl who given in to have sex with a guy, usually doesn’t last long, because after the guy bored and his lust fulfilled, then he will lust for other girl. And even most of the time that guy will think of the girls that he has sex with as a trophy, to show that he is great. Is this what you girls want? 

The same goes for boys, if you admit that you love someone, then don’t have sex with her until you married, because you will destroy her entire life. And if the girl is the one who ask you to have sex with her then break up with her, because that means that she already done it before with other guys or even if she has not, and you make her as your wife in the future, then she will likely cheated on you. 

Before married sex and teen sex are also one of the factor that affecting the high divorce rate, because when problems come in the family, or when husband and wives fighting, they will think “hey I’ve done it before, and why don’t it again now, there’s no difference”. And so on and on and on.

So people, think carefully before you do before married sex or teen sex!! Think about the consequences, think clearly don’t be blinded by lust and control yourself. Both man and woman responsible to prevent this from happen.

If you found my writing is useful, please let other people read it or know it. Let make this world a better place. :D

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

End of The World !!??

Yesterday, I watched television and shocked by the earthquake news that hit Chile. I said to myself, wow, what’s going on, last month it was Haiti and now Chile, right at the end of February. Is big earthquake going to be monthly event or what. This is horrible, but all in all the victim in Chile far less than in Haiti, hundreds compared to 220,000 for now, something that we should be grateful, since the earthquake that hit Chile was far stronger than the one that hit Haiti.

I just want to say my deepest condolence for Chilean people and let’s pray the death toll stopped and not increasing. 

I remembered that many people use this kind of moment to gain personal advantage or to deceive people. Many people, especially influential person are saying the world will end in 2012, or the end of the world is near, and try to make you and other people believe them and do what they say or to promote some product. But you know what bible say in Mark 13 32"No one knows about that day or hour, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father. 33Be on guard! Be alert! You do not know when that time will come.” So no one in this world knows when the world is going to end, it’s just a complete lie. It’s so sad seeing people fooled by other people, and feel worry for nothing.

I also heard that many priests or great figures do some miracles or have some great vision. In one occasion, I got a brochure that said a great priest has come to the church near my place and he will give a testimony of hell, because he said that God once gave him a vision of hell. And the most interesting thing is that he clearly remembers the writing in hell gate, I forgot what are the writing, but the writing is using English. Really?? I mean really?? Did he just have a dream that he thought as vision? And he is not the only one, there are a lot people do greater miracles or greater vision (like go to heaven, or meet God himself, etc etc). Sadly people who lack of faith and wisdom are easily swayed by them. People shouldn't believe that, because, again, the bible already stated that in Matthew 24 23At that time if anyone says to you, 'Look, here is the Christ!' or, 'There he is!' do not believe it. 24For false Christs and false prophets will appear and perform great signs and miracles to deceive even the elect—if that were possible. 25See, I have told you ahead of time.

So now you know the truth, you shouldn’t worry world will end in 2012, or fooled and follow people who admit that have power to miracles as prophet did. 

Just live your live to the fullest, enjoy everything, follow your heart and believe what you believe is right.

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

A Book CAN be Judged by Its Cover

It’s been a week, and now is the third week of February. How was your valentine, good? I hope so. Today I write about misconception that people usually make. There’s a saying don’t judge a book by its cover and this was made as a reason for a lot of people who are too lazy to dress up, or don’t care of their appearance. Now I give you reason why a book cover is really important. Enjoy.

People usually say don’t judge a book by its cover or don’t judge a person by its looks, but it’s a human nature to judge something by it looks since in most occasion when we have something new or meet someone new, we see it first before we touch it or hear it. You cannot resist not to judge people by its look, because it happens spontaneously and instantly, for example when you see a person with beard, scars in his or her face, fierce look, and dirty, and then I’m sure most of you will think negative of this person even though this person has a heart of an angel. Or a person with a neat and clean clothes, very polite, and looking good, and then I’m sure most of you will think positive of this person even though for example he is a killer or evil person.

What I want to say is, content or a person personality is really important, but appearance is also as important as the content or personality. Appearance give first impression to other people who look at and first impression is really important. If people already feel and think that a person is bad because of the impression that person give, then people will have trouble to trust that person, especially when that person do a good thing. First impression will stay deep down on the mind of people and even some people unconsciously labeled people as good or bad just from the appearance, because they don’t know really well that person.

Other case that show how important appearance is happen at the job interview. Usually at the job interview, the questioner or employer will look at your appearance first, whether your clothes are neat or not, etc, because it shows who you are and what is your habit. If you appear bad, then surely you have no chance to get a job. A person appearance, from the way of clothing, talking, eating, etc, usually reflect that person personality, sense, and knowledge. 

In conclusion, it’s true that a book shouldn’t judged by its cover but its cover can tell a lot about that book, the same goes for people.

So from today, why don’t all of us recheck our appearance, is it good enough, or not. If not, find a way to improve it, remember to have a good appearance doesn’t mean to spend money, you can do it by dressing neatly, keep your face clean or at least in check, and learn how to appear appropriate in many occasions. Everything will be smooth if people have positive impression on you.

Let’s make people in this world look better. 

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

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Valentine’s Day

 

First I want to say Happy Valentine’s Day and Happy Lunar New Year to those who celebrate it.

Today we are celebrating Valentine’s Day to commemorate love but do we all really know and understand what love is or how to love? Well, there are a lot different answers to this question from different people, but today I want to share my view about love.

Valentine’s day actually created to remember Saint Valentine death because he defended the right of people and also because his love to God. What I can learn from this is he sacrificed his life for something that he loved. So in my view, love is sacrifice, but that doesn’t mean to sacrifice your life. lol

You can know how deep someone loves something by measuring the sacrifice that he made for that something, the bigger the sacrifice, the deeper the love. Sacrifice can come in many ways, like sacrifice of your heart, time, money, energy or everything that you have that you can give to make your loved one happy. But to make everything work, your loved one also have to sacrifice something for you, if not then it means you have one sided love.

So are you ready to sacrifice today??

Make this Valentine’s day more beautiful, by sacrificing some of you more, give your best effort to make this day unforgettable for your loved one.

My Valentine’s day tips

For guys, give something special for your girl, generally women will loved flowers and chocolate, but if you have more money, you can give her jewelry, you know the saying “diamonds are women best friend”

Take her to special place, like the place you have your memory together for example, the place you first time meet, and talk something sweet to reminisce and usually say sincerely I love you forever also work.

After that you can have a dinner in a place you both like, or if you want to have a change, you can go to high class restaurant and order something special, usually they have valentine’s special menu. Have a champagne and don’t forget to hire singer or music player to sing at your table.

And the last don’t forget to hug and kiss (only for 18 years and older). :D

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

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Harmony Marriage Life

It is February now and next week is Valentine Day. Valentine day usually seen as love day, the day to show our love and affection more to our loved ones and this is not only for people who haven’t married, but also for people who have married.

I see in these days many spouses are fighting or having “cold war” in their house toward each other, which is very sad, and this could lead to divorce. Because of that I want to share a little from my experience on how to making things work in marriage life, so you can enjoy life full of love till the end of times.

First, don’t get mad when your spouse is mad, especially if they are mad at you. Remember don’t fight fire with fire, you can only put down fire with water. So when your spouse mad at you, keep calm, don’t let your emotion get you, wait until your spouse to cool off and then talk to him, then discuss with him to solve the problem. Usually when your spouse mad at you, it’s not always because of you, or your fault, they usually mad because of other things, external factor, maybe like they mad with their boss but they can’t really yell at them right, so they need someone to blow off their steam too. Even if you have big problems keep your head cool, and try to solve it, because there is no problem that cannot be solved when your head is cool. So take it easy, don’t follow your emotion, and keep your head cool.

Second, make time to get together with your spouse periodically and try to rekindle the time when you were girlfriend or boyfriend with your spouse, remembering what makes you love your spouse. Usually people are forgetting this things, and considered this as not important or wasting time, and because you never have your time to get together, your spouse will feel neglected, abandoned, so the fact is get together can boost your relationship with your spouse drastically.

Third, man needs to understand woman better and woman needs to understand man better too. Usually man is more insensitive and woman is more sensitive, and this can make some problems in marriage life. Woman should not talk using hidden message when talk to man, instead they should talk directly what their mean because man is not very good at deciphering hidden message, for example when a woman want to go to vacation don’t talk like this “hey that’s a very beautiful place, and you know you look tired honey” instead talk like this “hey lets go on a vacation, I really want it”. On the other side woman should not feel offended when man talk directly like that, because it’s their nature. Next man don’t really respond well to woman heart talk, they usually respond in short response and simple, as if not have any sympathies, but that’s not true because, again, it’s their nature. For this kind of problem, woman should have close friends to talk to, because they can respond better and understand the problems better, and what’s more usually woman can support each other so they can stay strong.

The last is simple tips from me, try to drink green tea anytime you can, because green tea can calm your nerve, so you can think clearer and also it has a lot of antioxidant so you can always look younger and attractive to your spouse.

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

Economic Crisis: bad for business BUT very good for environment and your health

Economic crisis is still happening despite all of the experts and analysts said that we passed the bottom. On the bright side, people are beginning to get their sense back, and economic crisis give a lot greater impact compared to all of green campaigns that have been done all this time.

Maybe you say how do I know? Lately I’ve been watching people around my neighborhood to change. Maybe they don’t realize it that their lifestyle now is very good for environment and their health, since their original motive is to save money.

Things that I see people start to walk or use bicycle to the train or bus station, rather than to use their private car like before, and I saw few weeks ago my neighbor exchanged their 5.7litres SUV with compact sedan, which has much much better mileage. So if millions of people doing like this, then you can count by yourself how many carbon that have been saved, moreover walking or cycling make you move your bodies and burn calories, as a result you become healthier.

Another trend that happening is now people stop window shopping or stop buying something that people actually don’t need. This is very good for environment, so there is less waste or garbage and since less people buy unimportant things then it mean no more wasting resources to create that product. Also people are starting to raise the temperature of their air conditioner few degrees in summer and this mean we have saved a lot of electricity.

People now also more keen in food problem. Before, people often eat in restaurant or fast food chain, since it’s easier and simpler. Now, I see people are starting to eat at home and prepare food from home to save money. This is very good for your health because you can control your calories intake and its more hygiene. From what I see, most of people eat more vegetables and less meat when eat at home or prepare food from home, and again this is good for your health, and also good for your environment. Meat animals actually produce a lot of carbon, one of the research show that one cow produce carbon more than several cars.

Because of this economic crisis we have sacrificed some of our conveniences, but do you feel it that we slowly are starting to adapt with it, and it’s not as hard as we have imagined before since we are getting used to. And as a bonus we are helping our environment and also we get healthier.

Maybe all of this are a warning that the world has given to us to get back to our senses, to appreciate more our bodies and nature.

So let keep it this way, good for nature, good for our health, and soon, I’m sure, economy will get better too.

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

Helping people that you don't know??

Yesterday I read the news and shocked a little when seeing Hope for Haiti telethon able to raise US$57mil in economy condition like this. There are so many people around the world who care for what happen in Haiti and that is really great, helping other people in need.

But what become my question when people that willing to other people that they don’t know about, is do people help other people who are in need around them? 

I have seen a lot of people who are like to donate when there is disaster happening, but on the other side they don’t care about those in need in their neighborhood or even in their own family. It’s really great that you care about what happen with people that you don’t even know, so if you’re able to do that then why don’t you help people around you who are in need, you can start at first from people who are close with you.

I’ve seen a lot family who able to donate large sum of money but they are not in harmony, fights happen between husband and wife or parents with children. My point is if you have that great affection to those people who you don’t know anything about, then why you don’t give your affection first to your family, to your closest one. After that you can start to care people in need in your neighborhood, like those beggars and people who don’t have anything. There are always people who are in need that around you, but it is your choice whether you want to look it or not. 

Please don’t become a hypocrite person, who always put a smile mask in front but deep down inside all you got is rotten heart.

So help as many people as you can, to make this world a better place.

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

You Are Who You Are

Another week has passed in 2010, and lots of things have happened. From unending bankruptcy report, waves of people who were laid off, and earthquake that happened in Haiti. Everyday looks worse than before, everything becomes uncertain and spins out of control, but remember everything will be over and all the hardships that we experience today will be like a dream for tomorrow. Keep looking up, never give up, and always look from positive side.

First I want to say my condolences on what happened in Haiti, let’s give a moment to pray for what happened there and may people at Haiti can be given the strength to face all of this. And may this disaster can make us realize how fortunate we are, and give us another reason to give thanks to HIM.

This week in the office when I was enjoying some romantic songs, a coworker of mine stopped by my room and said harshly that I’m sissy, because real man should hear rock or heavy metal music, not some soft music. It comes to my mind how many times I already experienced things like this, and I’m sure all of you also have experienced things like this more than once.

Situation like this happen the most at senior or university age based on my experience. In my experience they usually ask you to smoke cigarette or worse weeds, free sex, use drugs, or speeding. When other people try to make you to like or do something and you don’t do it or like it they will call you coward, sissy, or other rude things. But for me, people who are calling other person coward, sissy, etc like that are actually the one who is sissy, coward, or etc just like what they said.

People, who can resist, say no to all of that, and stay true to themselves, are actually the real great people. The reasons are simple. First, when you say no, you are proving that you are strong enough to be yourself, not what other people tell you, and not to lose your identity, on the contrary the one who are weak actually is them because they can’t resist, and easily swayed. Remember, great people in the world don’t do what other people said, but they tell other people what to do. Second, usually people who force you are always in a group or member of a group, it shows that they’re actually insecure, afraid to be left or alone, and worse they are nothing as an individual, but you, who resist, you show that you’re far better than them, you have a strong heart. And the last, people who can resist will become a successful person or a leader and on the contrary people who can always follow other people will be at the bottom forever.

Remember YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE, NOT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE SAID WHO YOU ARE.

 

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

Persevere In Everything You Do...

Time flies so fast, now the first week in 2010 has passed. I hope all of you have joy and pleasant experiences in this first week of 2010. :D

Yesterday I met another friend of mine who I've never met for a long time. We talked quite a lot, and to my surprise, he has view or way of thinking that is unthinkable for me at first. He said that he always hate God for giving him such a hard life, and how he never get a chance to do something big, something grand and great so he can be rich and famous. To me his way of thinking is quite unique, or alien, but after I'm thinking for a little bit, analyzing my past experiences with people, I realize that maybe there are a lot of people out there who have the same view with this friend of mine. So after hearing on what he said, I talked and discussed my view with him, because I think that his view is not giving good influence for his life and I hope I can convince him to change or at least alter his view, for his own good. I also hope my view also can help other people especially the readers of my blog who have the same view with this friend of mine.

For me this kind of view is kind of unacceptable. First he should not blaming God for what happen in his life or not giving him chance, because from what I see, this kind way of thinking will get him nowhere on the contrary it will only make him too obsessed, focused on looking easy way to get rich and famous, so he becomes reluctant to do hard job or real job and doesn't do whole heartedly what he is supposed to do. This is not right, from what I think, rather than wasting his time waiting or waiting for chances to come to him, it's better for him to do his job or his obligation whole heartedly, because this way he made a progress in his life and who knows in the way of this he find the chance that he is looking for. Because the bible said :

Matthew 25

21"His master replied, 'Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master's happiness!'

So don't ever give up, just like the bible had said, we need to persevere in everything we do, even though it's only small or minor things, and if we persevere we can be given bigger thing to do. You can see that every success person especially people who are in the richest men list in the world, always persevere in what they did, it's nothing sort of they got the money from lottery or nowhere. You can see Warren Buffet who work and trade since very early age, or Bill Gates who persevere in researching what we called today as computers and still countless examples of great person who persevere in what they do so they become great person. Also I want to give you another quote from the bible that is very important for you to think.

Matthew 25

26"His master replied, 'You wicked, lazy servant! So you knew that I harvest where I have not sown and gather where I have not scattered seed? 27Well then, you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest.

28" 'Take the talent from him and give it to the one who has the ten talents. 29For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken from him. 30And throw that worthless servant outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.'

So, now it's up to you to decide on what you going to do, whether waiting for chance to come to yourself, dwell in your dream to get rich and famous, or get up, do something and persevere in whatever you do.

Best Regard

Sleeping Wiseman

 

Happy New Year 2010!! Life is just like a firework...

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2010 EVERYONE!!!!!

I hope all of you have made good resolutions for 2010. CHEERS

Yesterday at New Year’s Eve I watched fireworks, and I’m sure most of you also watch it live or by TV or internet etc, no matter where you are. I always fascinated by the fireworks display, especially the big fireworks, and I came to think of it that actually our lives are just like a firework.

You know, there are many kinds of fireworks, there are small fireworks that fly low and pop really small explosion, and there are few big fireworks that fly really high and explode majestically, drawing all attention to it until everyone says “woow” conscious or unconsciously.

Human lives are also pretty much the same, mostly all of us are just like a small or medium fireworks that fly not so high and explode just the same like other fireworks. Our lives are very short and before we realize it, we already don’t have much time to do a lot of things or our dreams anymore, like fireworks that fly up unstoppable, our lives are also unstoppable, we cannot defy time. And what’s more important is what we have done in our live, like the fireworks, is it great enough to be like the majestic firework that draws all attention to it and say “wow”, or just like a cheap firework that fly low, explode pathetically, and nobody cares or even look at it? 

Human only have one life, it cannot be repeated, no matter what you have done, everything will still go forth. So now is the time, it’s up to you to decide, what you want your life would be, either become a great a firework that awed everyone or become a pathetic firework! If you want become a great firework, first thing you can do is make a great targets and resolutions for this year, remember everything is possible, so don’t afraid to put a great things in your targets or resolutions list. Second, do everything you can, give 1000% of yourself to reach your targets, because there’s no time for slacking off, and as I said, we cannot repeat time, so I don’t want to see you regretting things in your old age. And the last is don’t ever lose hope no matter what happens, because, once again, everything is possible.

I HOPE ALL OF US HAVE A GREAT YEAR OF 2010!!!

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

 

You Reap What You Sow

Few days ago in the train I heard other people were talking about Tiger Wood, they said that they think Tiger Wood is a great person until the news told us different story. So today I want to talk about think before you act, and in this case Tiger Wood can be a perfect example.

In my view, I think everyone should think as many times as possible before they make decision in their life, and don’t let your emotion or feeling cloud your judgment on your decision making, instead use your logic and science to do decision making since it’s more reliable. But in real life, it’s very hard to do, most of the time we usually follow our emotion or feeling to decide something. So to be more logical or scientific in decision making I suggest you to be patient, don’t be hasty in making decision unless it’s in emergency condition, because usually we need some time for our to emotion cool off and we can think clearer, next take all the time you need, make sure your decision is the best for you.  This way we can reduce the risk of making wrong decision greatly.

Other important thing to mind is that we need to train our self control. Self control is very important, especially if you’re are an important person like public figure, because the more success you are, the more temptations you will get and you will need to resist most of it. Most of us, again, have a very weak self control, making us easy to be tempted and fall into something wrong, because evil is lurking around our shadow, waiting us to show our weakness and prey as there is an opening. Usually when we did something wrong, we didn’t directly affected by it, instead the impact happen later in the future, when we unaware, a strike from the back. So how we can improve our self control and fight all those temptations? Well, the simple way is plant on your mind that everything bad you do will surely destroy your future, and also thinks what will happen to your spouse, children, families and friends who trusted you so much. Just like Tiger Wood case, before the scandal he has a good life, $100mill per year only from endorsement and much more, happy family, good public image, but all of that vanished in the blink of an eye, and soon after that trouble keep coming one after another. In the end now he got nothing, no endorsement, broken family, and not only that, he also makes the stock price of the company which endorsed him falls, so this is like a chain reaction.

One last thing, do NOT ever think you can outsmart the evil, it’s better to stay away as far as you can, don’t give any opening in your life. 

Remember you can hide rotten thing, but sooner or later people will sniff out the scent, because you can’t hide the scent.

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!! What's winter mean for Christmas

Hi I just want to say MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL OF YOU.

Some people always asking or even some other people are whining why Christmas is always cold, and full of snow, how great it is in southern country when in this time of year they have summer. But for me the best Christmas is when it's in the cold winter! Why?

Let me give you the answer behind the meaning Christmas in winter is the best.

Because Christmas is the time for us to share the WARMTH of our love, passion, and care towards other people that we love. Share the warmth by helping others, by meet all of our families again, by hugging your spouse n children, it's the warmth. And, you know, the warmth only feel best at the coldest time. So the one we love can know how we feel towards them by giving the warmth of our heart to them in the coldest time of the year.

Just think what Christmas would like when it's happen in summer... It's hot already and how can we share our warmth, so always be grateful for what we have. 

So just like I said, always see things from the positive side... :D

and once more, have a MERRY n WARM CHRISTMAS!!!

Best Regards

Sleeping Wiseman

Financial Crisis, let's see it from positive side!!

Yesterday a friend of mine was talking to me about how bad his financial condition this year. He got layoff and now he is worrying on how he can

I know there are a lot of people in the world who experience the sustain the whole family especially it’s near Christmas time. same thing as my friend in this financial crisis, where everything goes bad and crashing down. But let us see it from other point of view; this thing might happen for the good reason.

You know that when you’re in your worst condition you can know your closest family members, or friends, or your close person heart, whether they really care about you or just faking it all this time. As I said to my friend, true friends are the one who stays with you, support you, and console you in your worst condition.  Next is your family, in this hard time you can really know what your family members like wife/husband, your children thinking about you, whether they are still loyal and support you all the time or they only care about your money. So now you can know who your really best friends are, and also now you can know who you can depend on.

Isn’t it good to know who are really good to you?

Other good thing we can experience from this condition is now you have more free time to spend with your family. This is something you have not a chance to do before. So rather than whining all the time, stressing your head with the depression, why don’t you spend time with your family, play with your children, so they are happy and love you more, or be together with your husband or wife, learn your spouse better so you can understand each other more. Just think this as a vacation from your work, spend a quality time, maybe this is the reason for all of this to happen.

One more thing you can do in this condition, you can sit down, relax your minds, reflect on yourself. I’m sure most of us never have time to reflect on ourselves, since usually our life pretty much like this we get up, go to work, eat, work again, go back home and sleep. Just relax, go to the park, enjoy yourself, reflect on yourself, then I guarantee you can come with new idea to life your live or at least see the world better.

So be grateful and see the positive side in every situation.

Remember, YOUR HAPPINESS IS ON YOUR OWN MIND, NOT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE TOLD YOU!!

Best Regard

Sleeping Wiseman

Matters of Giving

Christmas time is near, and as usual it's charity time. 

People usually donate money or give something to charity, church or directly to poor people (despite we are in the middle of monetary crisis now).  It's a good thing to do since Christmas is symbol of kindness, caring and loving. BUT there is a problem usually occurs when people do charity. This problem commonly overlooked by people and mostly this happen because of the misconception or lack of knowledge. 

Basically nothing is wrong with the act of giving or charity, the problem lies in how most people do it. Nowadays I can see that people usually give something and they write their name on it, for example you donate to charity organization and they write your name clearly at the boards or papers or even on television. People like to get their name known when they give something, and that's the problem. So is true that what you want is to get fame, to make everyone know that you're good people, you're rich, you're better than who doesn't give? ask your heart for the answer. If you answer no, then you can change, because now you know the truth. 

If you say, I there is no way to not write my name because it's a requirement in the charity place or etc. etc. Remember that you can use your initial, or in the worst case you can explain to other people so they also know the truth. to be honest, nothing impossible, when there's a will, there's a way.

Even the bible wrote this

Matthew 6

Giving to the Needy

 ¹"Be careful not to do your 'acts of righteousness' before men, to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.  ²"So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by men. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full. ³But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, ⁴so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

So if your intention when giving donation or charity is to help people, then you should consider this thing again, but if your intention when giving donation or charity is to get fame, then I can speak no more. 

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Sleeping Wiseman

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